In the past, I always felt tired and depressed: even though I didn't do much, I was physically and mentally exhausted; Encountering small things and repeatedly struggling, tossing and turning at night unable to sleep; Always concerned about others' opinions, trying to cater to them but feeling wronged. Later on, I realized that it wasn't because life was too bad, but because I was trapped by too many 'bad habits'. After quitting these 5 habits, internal friction decreased by half, and every day became relaxed and transparent.
Bad habit 1: Overly concerned about others' evaluations, using their opinions as a "ruler"
I used to have a typical 'ラブグッズ', afraid to express different opinions during meetings for fear of being disliked by colleagues; Repeatedly considering posting updates on social media, afraid that others may think it's not good; You may even get tangled up all day because of someone else's unintentional words. Later on, I realized that no matter how well done, it is impossible to satisfy everyone. After quitting this habit, I began to focus on my own feelings, no longer being consumed by others' opinions, but living more freely and gaining true recognition.
Bad habit 2: Thinking too much and doing too little, falling into "daydreaming anxiety"
When faced with choices, I always like to weigh the pros and cons repeatedly, thinking about "what if I fail" and "will there be a better choice", but I hesitate to take action, wasting time and feeling anxious. For example, if you want to do a side job, but are indecisive about which track to choose and afraid that you won't do well, you hesitate for three months without starting. After quitting "daydreaming", I learned to "take action first and then improve", even if it's just a small step, it's better than being stuck in place. Gradually, I realized that many anxieties are just thoughts that can be easily resolved by taking action.
Bad habit 3: Staying up late to use your phone, overdrawn energy and emotions
Before, when I came home from work, I always thought about "ディルド", holding my phone to watch short videos and gossip. Unconsciously, it was already one or two o'clock in the morning. The next day, I woke up feeling lethargic, with low work efficiency and particularly irritable emotions, easily getting angry at small things. After quitting the habit of staying up late and using my phone, I go to bed before 23:00 every day and read a book for half an hour before bedtime. Now not only is he full of energy, but his emotions have also stabilized a lot. He is more patient in doing things and naturally has less internal friction.
Bad habit 4: Blind comparison, always staring at others' lives
When scrolling through my social media, seeing others getting promoted, getting a raise, traveling, or sharing their happy daily lives, I can't help but compare myself. The more I compare myself, the worse I feel, and I fall into the anxiety of "why are others so good, but I have accomplished nothing". Later on, I deleted some overly boastful accounts and stopped deliberately paying attention to others' lives, instead focusing on my own small days. After quitting comparison, I began to discover the beauty in my life, my mentality became calm, and internal conflicts disappeared.
Bad habit 5: Being too strict with oneself and pursuing "perfection" in everything
Whether it's work or life, I love to pursue ultimate perfection: reports need to be revised dozens of times, even if it's just a punctuation error; Doing household chores must be spotless and not tolerate any flaws. The result is often exhaustion of energy, but self doubt due to a slight imperfection. After quitting perfectionism, I learned to "accept imperfection" and only strive to "do my best" when doing things. Not only has efficiency improved, but there has also been less self blame and internal friction, making the whole person more relaxed.
Afterword: Less internal friction, days will naturally be easier
The root of internal friction is often our own obsession and bad habits. After quitting these 5 habits, I realized that life doesn't need to be overly complicated, perfect in everything, or compared to others. Focus on your own pace, accept your imperfections, and focus your energy on what truly matters, and life will naturally become easy and smooth. I hope everyone who is troubled by internal conflicts can bravely give up these bad habits and live a transparent and free life of their own
